Jesus christ, that was way too long of a read to hold my attention. I only read halfway through, but it sounds like you're being a socially conscious human being while admirably sticking to your guns against people who take these divisions too far and overgeneralize. Mansplaining is rarely anything rooted in fact because how do the people coming after you know that you're coming at them from misogyny.

"I understand impact matters regardless of intention. I still don’t think I said anything so awful it warranted this level of response."

In a sense yes,but in my opinion, there should be a reasonable standard for what's offensive.